Precautionary Measures
by Frank
Senne
Whenever it comes to inserting any object, finger or genitalia into
the anus or vagina, there are a number of precautionary measures and
rules to play by (see also: "Hygiene"), as you will come into
contact with highly sensitive mucous membranes and the bacteria living
on them. In addition there is of course the psychological factor.
First the Physical Precautions:
- Should you or your partner, of whichever gender, suspect or know
of a possible HIV infection or any other sexually transmitted
disease, please make sure you are using a latex covering for your
fingers. They are similar to condoms, yet designed to be placed on
your finger and are of a much thicker material.
- For the manual, internal stimulation the partner, of whichever
gender, must pay greatest attention to the hands, which must be well
groomed. Most importantly are extremely short and well-rounded
fingernails in order to prevent damage to this highly sensitive
region of your body. The skin too, should have a fair amount of
attention paid to. No callus skin, as this too can lead to painful
injuries.
- When it comes to the internal stimulation with a vibrator, examine
the sex toys thoroughly before use. Quality control may at times
fail to notice rough surfaces or protruding plastic parts again
possibly causing injury.
- Always use a water-based lubricating agent when attempting
internal prostate stimulation, as the bowel does not possess glands
for the production of lubricating fluids.
But there is more to it than the mere physical aspect. The
psychological factor also plays an important role when it comes to
prostate stimulation. Even if it is only an external stimulation, it can
happen that your partner does not like the sensation he is getting, as
it may be new to him. It can get progressively worse when attempting an
internal stimulation, as you will insert a finger or vibrator into his
anus. For many men this a highly distressing thought, as this form of
sexual stimulation for them is only practised by homosexuals, which may
lead to more or less severe feelings of guilt and/or anxiety ("Am I
gay?" or "Is this type of behaviour normal?" or "Is
there something wrong with me?").
Mind Over Matter:
- Both of you should be clear about how far you are prepared to go
and, if necessary, agree on a signal with which you can terminate or
at least interrupt the action.
- There is no right or wrong. External stimulation is not
"merely" the first step on the way to penetration, however
this may be carried out. You may discover that you find external
stimulation satisfying enough. Just leave it at that until, if ever,
you are ready to venture further.
- The partner doing the stimulating should also not be forgotten.
Can your partner, of whichever gender, actually imagine inserting a
finger or vibrator into your anus, even though you may find this
highly desirable?
- Do not put yourself or your partner under pressure.
Note (as already mentioned under
"What is it?":
Stimulation of the prostate may prove
to widen your sexual horizon. "May" is the magic
word is and not "must".
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